No one knows what they’re DOING!
Hi everyone, it’s Maggie O’Connor at Breakthrough MFT, helping you reach your ‘breakthrough moment’.
Have you been feeling like ‘nobody knows what they’re doing?’
Like your school systems or your local government isn’t providing enough information, or guidance about what to do next? Or whatever they are telling you just feels scary or too risky somehow?!
Well, of course you are feeling that way.
They don’t know what they’re doing.
And neither do we.
None of us do!
Individually, we are making decisions about how to keep our kids safe while functioning as families. And we generally feel anxiety about those decisions. I imagine it’s a similar dynamic in school systems and local governments in that they are making decisions that impact entire communities.
Intellectually, we know that there are no perfect solutions.
But emotionally, it makes us feel anxious and scared, because the stakes are just so high. And the environment that feels like it’s changing day to day, just intensifies those feelings.
We’re constantly on this hamster wheel of feeling awful and then taking a breath, then feeling awful and then taking a breath…
If we could just slow it down and for a moment, and put aside our anxiety and frustration, even put aside our fear just for a moment; we might find some compassion for ourselves;
To say –
I am doing my best,
I am making the best decisions for myself and my family,
I will make mistakes and I will do my best to correct them.
In finding that compassion for ourselves, we might find compassion for those around us… for the teacher who can’t get the technology to work; for the school administrator who seems to be changing the plan week to week! As we get back to the business of educating our kids as safely as we can, we would all do well to remember that we’re all human and we’re doing the best we can.
We’ve never done this before.
And we don’t know what we are doing.
We just need to make the best decisions we can, with the information we do have.
It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t voice our concerns, when we have them; but it does mean that we do it with the kindness in the way that you wish others would do with you.
My decisions may be different than yours.
But we are all doing the best we can.
I’m Maggie O’Connor, hoping this helps you to ‘break on through’.