‘Killing It’ Today and ‘Losing It’ Tomorrow #CoronaCoaster
Have you had moments in this pandemic in which you felt like,
“All right I got this! It’s not it’s not so bad, it is what it is, we’ll get through this… it’s fine…”
…only to find yourself the next day or maybe even the next hour, teary or angry looking for it to get back to normal? (which is a little bit of denial, we’re not gonna lie…)
You’re not alone. What you’re feeling is totally normal!
I feel it; as much as information as I have about managing anxiety and grief! It doesn’t matter what you know when you feel like this. The point is that we feel like this because it’s real. We’re all at the point in which we’ve lost someone or we know someone who is sick or we’re worried about friends and family on the front lines. I want to take a little deeper to even say we have all lost a sense of control, in the losses of certain freedoms.
And so for that all of us are grieving; and you know from dealing with grief in your life before that is not a linear process. It doesn’t go from #1 to #5 like – “…Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance… OH, there we are!”
We can easily be triggered away from a sense of acceptance, the stage in which we say ‘It’s okay, it is what it is…’, back into one of those other stages because we were triggered by something that reminds us that we don’t have the control, or that this this is really hard. Later we’re going to develop a meaning from all of this, but we can’t do that while we’re in the middle of it.
We are not supposed to live like this, and that’s not about it being unfair, it’s about it being sad and sometimes lonely. Even when you’re surrounded by other people and if you’re talking about it with people that you know and love and getting your Zoom calls and that’s the most important thing to know that you’re not alone.
And if you don’t have people around you or if you need to talk about it on a different level, Breakthrough is not the only place that’s open online for therapy. There are therapists all over the country and I imagine all over the world who are doing sessions online… give us a call.
As I was writing this, a cardinal landed on the branch outside and the branch kind of swung and shook a little – it’s kind of windy outside – and he didn’t seem concerned at all… I can say today that I see that we all have wings. We will get through this we’re just in the middle of it right now… and you don’t have to be alone.
I’m Maggie O’Connor, hoping this helps you to break on through.